Feminism: the problem in the definition

In the last couple of years, several campaigns have been raised pro and against “feminism”… all by women! Well, I see this as a problem, a very annoying problem. Why?! Because, honestly, most people have no idea what they are in fact defending!


It may have started out just like that: the advocacy for women’s rights and equality, but somewhere along the way the world started seeing it as something else. Somehow, you’re not a feminist if you don’t think yourself better than men, or if you think you need a man to do something, or if you think that men have problems too.

This is a big problem, and it didn’t start with those who call themselves non-feminists, it started with the one that say that they are. Because woman shaming for some reason or another is common practice, and most of those doing the “shaming” are other women. Bashing someone because they don’t see the world as you do, is not believing in equality, so somewhere along the way, the meaning of the word “feminism” changed to something like: “we don’t want to be equal to men, we want to be acknowledge as better!”…

(link – they don’t understand it, because nowadays, no one does…)

Do you see the problem yet?! No one has to better than the other, everyone is different and we should stop generalizing! Not all women want to have top careers and worry if they can “have it all”, well, some men don’t want it either, some are perfectly happy with a middle class job and a family at home. Some women do want the top career, and even though there still are some difficulties in regard of salaries differences, most of them get it.

Feminism means that men and women have the same rights and the same opportunities, and at least in the developed world, we mostly do! It doesn’t mean that we have to be just like men (because we’re not), it also doesn’t mean that we should all want the same thing. There are still complaints that women are still behind in high powering positions in government and companies, and my opinion is that it’s still a product of it’s time! The truth is, there is probably more men interest in getting to those jobs than women, so by the law of probability, they get it more… Things today are not the same as 10 years ago, and they won’t be same 10 years from now!

Also, feminism, at least the way I see it, is not directly related to rape (or did I miss something along the way?!)… Let’s face it, men are abused too, and a lot, and most women don’t bat an eyelash for them!

12 problems with feminism

I don’t know… maybe it’s because I was raised in part by my single mother, and another big part by my single father (who always, to this day, is the one who cooks, cleans and does laundry at home!). Or maybe it’s because I always had a lot more female teachers, and when I got to college, even more. Maybe because I worked for a few years in a company that had mainly women in their ranks (and sometimes it sucked!), or because if I look around right now in my university department, I can only find 4 men among at least 20 women. So, I never really thought that women couldn’t make it, I wasn’t raised like that, but I also don’t identify myself as a feminist (not the way it is today). I believe in equality!


2 thoughts on “Feminism: the problem in the definition

  1. Shivver says:

    I saddens me when “feminism” is used as an insult. I’m like you: I’ve never ever thought that I couldn’t make it to where I wanted to go just because I’m a woman, but I also recognize that there are lots of women who can’t. Feminism isn’t about turning the tables and oppressing men. It isn’t about stopping men from complimenting women (that image and the Tumblr it comes from is horribly ignorant). It’s about removing the outdated barriers that women have to face every day. The opponents don’t understand it, and many of the proponents have lost sight of that goal.

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