Let’s Talk About: Sex in Novels

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Hey people! If you’ve been following me for some time now, you probably know that even though I’ve been blogging for almost 3 years (yeah! I know!), I’ve never actually done a bookish discussion post. What?! How is that possible?! Oh well… a lot of you guys do them, and you have brilliant ideas every week, and most of the times I end up agreeing with one view or the other, sometimes I even comment, but I never really felt the need to write a post about any of those subjects. That was true until this past friday…

Josie @Josie’s Book Corner wrote a post entitled Sex in Novels…| Thursday Ramblings, as you probably know because you’re all following her, right? – If you aren’t, you might want to start NOW! – I’m rambling here, moving on…

So, Josie wrote this post, and just to shed some light on this, I usually agree with Josie on almost everything. She gives me the best book recommendations and her discussion posts are always on point, but as I saw the subject, I knew that this would not be a theme we would agree on. Have you read her post? Well, Josie defends her opinion on why she doesn’t think that sex should be featured in books, and as I couldn’t disagree more, I decided to write this post to expose my own opinion on this subject.

I should disclose that my opinion is obviously influenced by my very adult age – I’m 31!!! – and the fact that I was raised in a very liberal environment with 3 older siblings. I probably should also mention that I’m agnostic (just because)…

I’ll be using quotes from Josie’s post within the discussion – all quotes are from her.


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As you might have figured it out by now, I’m in favor of sex in novels, and yes, I’m being general here. It’s obvious I don’t think it should feature in children’s books, because – DUH!!!, but in any other type of book, yep, I’m all for it.

Now, hold your horses people! Let me get into it, ok?

We have enough of this in our erotica novels, and even more all over the internet. Why should we start sexualising the pages of our novels? 

Sex is a natural part of life, and it’s a good part of life! The distinction between what is erotica and not, shouldn’t be on the basis it it features sex or not, it should be in terms of description and explicitly. Should ALL books that feature sex be explicit?! Heck no! But that doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t include sex if the story calls for it.

We have enough media promoting sex to young people (…) think that including sex in Young Adult novels, is just sending reassurance to young people that it’s normal for them to have sex, being 16, 17, or maybe even younger. This is not something we want to promote.

It’s true that we live in a hypersexualized society, unfortunately yes, it’s very true, but eliminating sexual content from novels doesn’t mean that this trend will disappear. Books should reflect the life and problems that people face everyday, not what society SHOULD be like. I respect everyone’s beliefs, but sex is a BIG part of teens and young adults lives, people are having sex, it’s natural, sex is a normal part of everyday life, it’s no different from any other event in one’s life (except that it’s probably way better).

What I’m saying is: sex shouldn’t be a big deal! Is it an important thing? YES! Should it have limits and be respectful? Obvious! Should you do it only if you’re ready? ABSOLUTELY! But its importance depends on the people involved. Some people will think it’s this huge Earth-Shattering HUGE decision kind of thing, while for most of us Sex is just Sex! (Am I being too cold here?)

Traditionally, sex is a personal experience between two people, coming together in love.

The idea that the sexual act is synonymous of love actually irks me a bit (sorry!). To make it clear, I’m not crazy about the whole “one-night stand” thing, but LOVE is something that comes with time, while lust, attraction and sexual desire are much more immediate. It’s a bit naive of us to think that the two go hand-in-hand for most people, because they don’t, and that’s OK! However, a sexual relationship can be a stepping stone for deeper feelings, and sometimes it happens the other way around 😉 .


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If you’ve seen my blog for the past couple of months you know this already, but here it goes: I LOVE NEW ADULT BOOKS! And yes, I like that they include sex, and I even like that they include EXPLICIT sex (cofcof, I live vicariously through my books… whatcha gonna do?!).

Out of all the life experiences that we could be exploring with the New Adult genre, from university, to mid-life crises, and so much more, we are focusing on sex? 

It’s true that some New Adult books focus too much on the romance and sex, and forget to actually have a plot, but that’s not true for all those books. And in some cases the sex part of the relationship is important for the development of the relationship as well as the characters. Sex is a big part of most of new adults’ lives,  whether they’re in a relationship or just doing the casual thing, so it’s natural that that reality is mirrored in New Adults’ books.

I finished a NA book just a couple of days ago – best NA book I’ve ever read, by the way – where the MC’s relationship with sex was of vital importance to the plot and the story. The book dealt with how to live and have a normal sexual relationship when you were a victim of sexual abuse, and even how to actually acknowledge that you were a victim. It’s an important message and a book that I highly recommend, and it touches on the fact that your body might react to something in a different way that your mind does, and that doesn’t mean you gave consent (my review will be up in a couple of days).

Especially to the readers who are emerging out of YA novels and into NA, we are romanticising the idea of being an adult, giving the impression that when you step into the wider world, your experiences with men/women is going to be all about sexy times and this is just as bad as the portrayal of some romances in YA, in my personal opinion.

This is true, not everyone stepping into adult life will find a partner that easily, but for those who do, even the most imperfect relationship, will most likely involve (some kind of) sex. New Adults who chose to remain celibate (for whatever reason) are a minority, so an adult relationship will most likely involve some steamy, sexy times, as well as everything else. If you chose to read a New Adult ROMANCE, it’s pretty clear that it will include sex – because it usually does in real life. The thing that in most cases doesn’t happen is that you’ll find that perfect someone that easily, but hey, it’s a ROMANCE! Sexual chemistry is important in a relationship!

Could most NA books have better plot? YES!!! Do they all need to describe the sex scenes so explicitly? Hmmm, probably not, but if it’s well written, it’s really nice to read… But it’s unrealistic to have an adult relationship portrayed that doesn’t include sex.


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About YA… this is another can of worms… Should sex be present in YA books?! I’ll say YES as well, and I’ll explain my opinion.

Sex should be present whenever the plot calls for it. If we’re talking about a romance of any sort within the YA universe, then it’s only natural, that at some point, the main couple engages in sexual activity. BUT, contrary to NA novels, I believe that the act should be implied and not described.

YA BOOKS DON’T HAVE TO INCLUDE SEX WHEN IT IS NOT PERTINENT, OBVIOUSLY!!!

An example of a YA book that does explicit sex right, in my opinion, is Ignite Me by Tahereh Mafi – you have absolutely NO DOUBT about what’s going on, but the only thing described are Juliette’s feelings 😉 – by the way, LUCKY GIRL!!! Another example of pertinent sex in YA is in Crown of Midnight by Sarah J. Maas, where everything is implied – non explicitly – and it makes a lot of sense in terms of the progression of the story and the romance.

Mental health, growing up, self discovery, and much more. Of course, I suppose you can argue that sex is a part of self-discovery and growing up but I don’t think so, and I really don’t want to promote sex among a teenage audience.

I have to disagree with Josie here, because SEX is most definitely a part of self-discovery and growing up. The teenage years is when your sexual identity is defined, when you start to feel urges and changes to your body. Acknowledging that is important, because sexual maturation is a normal part of growing up. Also, a lot of teenagers have problems and insecurities regarding sex, body confidence or sexual orientation and identity, if we want books to be diverse, they should include all these problems, in all the shapes, forms and acts that they come in.

For instance, Love in the Time of Global Warming by Francesca Lia Block, might have a lot of problems, but it deals with the main character sexuality and how her intimate relationship with her transgender boyfriend might work. These are important subjects and they should be talked about.


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I’m in favor of sexual content in novels because I think that sex is a natural and normal part of life. I was never shy to discuss it, and it never bothered me to share or talk about the subject, so I have no problem reading about it, and I enjoy it. I realize that my level of comfort with it had something to do with my age and my upbringing, and I understand that not everyone will feel so open and relaxed about this topic.

Having a sexual content within a book doesn’t immediately means that you’re reading “porn” – though let me tell you that some books are highly superior to some of the stuff flying around. Most of the times, sex is dealt with taste, whether it is explicit or not.

“But YA is aimed for kids! The books shouldn’t even touch the subject!!!”

Let me ask you, in which century are you living? Because kids nowadays have a clear understanding on how things work. Given that, I think it’s only beneficial if they read about it in safe books, that show that it should be done with respect and feelings. That protection is important. That it’s ok not to be sure. It’s ok not to do it. And it’s ok to do it. NOBODY SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF SEX! When you start taking the topic off the table of discussions, out of books and schools, and general media, that’s when you’ll lack information and the worst will happen.

It’s always safer to talk openly about these subjects, than to confine them to being unbreachable topics. Talking about these stuff leads to understanding and confidence. Reading about them makes you feel understood and less alone.

Sex is natural. Sex is good. (I hope no one here is still under the impression that babies come from… whatever they say they come from in your country.)

So… almost 2000 words later, I think I’m done! I hope I didn’t step on anyone’s toes here 😛 . So, what do you think about this subject?

November Book Haul

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Hello! Here we are again for another Book Haul. Jesus, where are the days going this year? It’s going by so damn fast :S .

Ok, so, I did great this month!!! I only bought 1 physical book!!! What?! Oh yeah, just ONE people!!! That book was Carry On by Rainbow Rowell, I got it right in the beginning of the month.

Then I got another physical book in the mail, because I won a giveaway! WHAT??? Yeah, I was so surprised! This is the first book I ever won and it was so cool! 😀 I asked for The Winner’s Curse by Marie Rutkoski, and I’m excited to start this series. A huge thank you to Chelsea @Books for Thought for hosting this giveaway and sending me this gorgeous book :D. (look at how gorgeous it is!!!)


I did request a few books from Netgalley, and some of them I was able to read this month 😉 (yep people, a lot of New Adult…) :

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More Than Comics by Elizabeth Briggs

Seven Nights to Surrender by Jeanette Grey

BANGED: Rock Stars, Bad Boys & Dirty Deeds by Lexxie Couper, Madelynne Ellis, Zara Keane, Ainsley Booth, Cari Quinn, Shari Slade et al (this is actually 8 books!!!)

Deal Breakers by Laura Lee


Apart from the eARCs I got from Netgalley, I also received 4 books from the authors:

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More Than Exes by Elizabeth Briggs

More Than Once by Elizabeth Briggs

Reasons To Love A Nerd Like Me by Becky Jerams

Distraction by Laura Clark


Finally, I did buy a few books from Amazon’s Kindle store… well, more than a few, I think I went a bit overboard… I was really into New Adult this past month, still am, and I think I’ll keep it up, intertwining some NA with my favorites YA, so a read a few reviews of NA, and one thing led to another, and I bought a lot of eBooks (all cheap! Some even for free!):

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World After: Penryn and the End of Days Book Two by Susan Ee

End of Days: Penryn and the End of Days Book Three by Susan Ee

Lost and Found (Lost & Found Book 1) by Nicole Williams

Near & Far (Lost & Found Book 2) by Nicole Williams

Finders Keepers (Lost & Found Book 3) by Nicole Williams

Kiss the Sky (Calloway Sisters book 1) by Krista Ritchie and Becca Ritchie

The Vincent Boys (The Vincent Boys #1) by Abbi Glines

The Vincent Brothers (The Vincent Boys #2) by Abbi Glines

Roommates by Erin Leigh

Down and Out (Knockout Love #1) by Kelley R. Martin


So… I hoarded 27 books this month… WOW! Not even sorry about that, lol.

Wandering About: Madrid (2008)

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OHHHH, I haven’t done one of these in a while!!! I had a good reason though, because in October I filled this blog with posts about South Korea and Japan, and I didn’t want to overwhelm everyone with traveling posts… But, it has been a while now, so I’m going back to this. Today I’ll share some pictures of Madrid (Spain).

Incredibly, even though I LIVE IN SPAIN, I’ve only been to Madrid once, and it was because I had a course/workshop there about Forensic Anthropology. I actually really loved the city, and I think I would rather live there than in Barcelona (though Barcelona is undoubtedly more beautiful).

I didn’t take much pictures, and I didn’t saw that much of the city because the course was 5 days (if I remember correctly), so I’ll show you some of the stuff that we saw during this workshop… 😀 (warning, you might be a bit creeped out).

Yep people, those are bones… human bones… In case you’re wondering, the skull had a lot of bone growth, some kind of bone cancer, most likely. And the last pic is a skeleton of a subadult individual.

Movie of the Week: The Hunger Games – Mockingjay Part 2

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The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 2 finally opened this week here in Spain – yes people, we are ALWAYS behind on movie’s premieres… it sucks! Anyway, it opened on Friday, so I was obviously there.

I really liked the movie, it’s a stellar adaptation from the source material. These 3 books might just be the best adaptations from book to screen ever. The movie does a great job telling the last part of the story, still showing all that goes on behind the action, and how Katniss and her team are still nothing more than a piece in the game of President Snow vs. President Coin.

The action was on point, there are some true horrific moments that will make you gasp if you haven’t read the books. Heck, I read the books, and when these moments and deaths came, I still gasped and cried like a baby. It’s such a sad movie… Oh Finnick… 😦

The only thing I wish that they had included in the adaptation was Johanna and Katniss bonding and becoming friends. The movie does very little to humanize Johanna and she comes off as a b***h sometimes, while in the book we see her struggles firsthand. Hers and Katniss’ training is important, but I do get why they had cut that.

The acting is truly stellar here! Jennifer Lawrence is perfect as always, but Josh Hutcherson is brilliant as Peeta, he looks so broken most of the time =/ that it’s unbearably sad 😦 . But Elizabeth Banks is still my favorite! She has a scene towards the end, when she’s saying goodbye to Katniss and Haymitch that just broke my heart with a single expression from her.

The ending is bittersweet, and while I admire that they included the epilogue in the movie, and almost wish that they didn’t. The epilogue in the book is all Katniss inner monologue and they translated that to her talking to a baby, and while it’s well done, I almost wish that the movie would have ended in the mythic “real”.

And finally, I’m so glad that my theory about Haymitch and Effie came true!

So people, have you watched this movie yet? Did you cry (oh, please, tell me I wasn’t the only one…)? What did you think of it?

The Autumn Book Tag

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Here we are, for another Fall-themed book tag! This time I was tagged by TRAVELLING IN MY BOOKCASE and Trisha @The Bookgasm, thank you both so much. Now, let’s do this.


What is your favourite thing about Autumn?

EVRYTHING!!! I love the beginning of the cold weather, the occasional rain, the cold wind on my face, the fact that I can snuggle in my comforter without being all hot and stuff. I like the hot drinks and the heavier food. I like that all the TV shows are back – even though I’m behind on all of them right now. I love everything about it.

What book reminds you of your school days?

The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown. I read this one while in college and I remember being on my one hour commute to college in the morning (and by morning I mean 7 a.m.) and reading this book nonstop. Yes, by “school” I’m going with college, because really, I’m old, and any other kind of school was too long ago.

What book cover reminds you of Autumn?

You won’t know this one, Unless you’re from Portugal, and in that case you’ll obvious recognize this book, because you probably have it too. The cover of A Floresta by Sophia de Mello Breyner Andresen always reminds me of Autumn…

What is your favourite horror or Halloween story?

Not applicable because I don’t read either.

What is your favourite horror or Halloween film?

I also try not to watch horror movies. I always liked Practical Magic, is that considered a Halloween movie?

What Fall book release are you most looking forward to? 

I feel like I’m a bit late for that, considering that we’re almost at the end of November and Winter will be here in a few weeks… But I was really excited for the release of Carry On by Rainbow Rowell, though I’ve had the book for almost a month and I still haven’t read it.

What Autumn movie release are you most anticipating? 

 Again, I’m super late for this one!!! Mockingjay part II for sure, and I watched it just yesterday 😀 .

What are three books you plan to read this Autumn?

I plan to finish Cress by Marissa Meyer and get to Carry On by Rainbow Rowell in the next week or so.


This is it for this tag! I won’t tag anyone because, let’s face it, this season is almost over and soon we’ll be flooded by the Winter Tags…

More Than Once (Chasing the Dream #4) (Elizabeth Briggs)

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She’s trying to be good. He loves it when she’s bad.

Andrew West is done being the nice guy. After a marriage proposal gone wrong, he’s started over in a new city and he’s never risking his heart again. 

Becca Collins is done being the bad girl. After quitting the band she played bass for, she’s going to prove to her family that she’s really changed. 

When Becca’s dumped by her boyfriend and fired from her job on Christmas Eve, all seems lost, until she runs into a former one night stand—Andrew. To impress her parents, Becca convinces him to pretend to be her perfect boyfriend for their holiday dinner.

After Andrew shows Becca he’s all bad boy in the bedroom, neither wants to pretend anymore. But when Becca’s invited to rejoin her band for a show and Andrew’s forced to face his ex, they both wonder if they’re ready to take a leap again—or if they’re doomed to fail in life and love a second time.


I’m so glad I’ve subscribed to Elizabeth Briggs’ launch team!!! After I read More Than Comics a few weeks ago, I was super happy to receive the new book in the Chasing the Dream series, especially because this one relates directly with the one above. I ended up devouring this book in one night!

This story is about Becca and Andy, and if you read More Than Comics, you know know that they meet at the end of that book, with Andy’s proposal to Tara having just been turned down, and Becca trying to rebuild her life after her fallout with the band (I still need to read book 0.5 and 1!). They share that one night but never have contact again, even though they both move to the same city. That is, until Andy runs into Becca at her job and they end up reconnecting.

Now, I have to say, I liked this book way more than More Than Comics! Don’t get me wrong, Tara and Hector are pretty great, but Andy and Becca are pretty amazing! I really liked their story. They were both so broken and so adamant about not giving a second chance to things – Becca didn’t want to pursue her music, thinking that she would always fail, and Andrew didn’t want to pursue love, because having put himself out there once and having his heart broken was enough. It’s so beautiful to read about how they change each other, and make the other one believe in themselves again, even if it was in a short period of time. But hey, this wasn’t inta-love, not really! They met in the summer, had mind-blowing sex and ended up connecting pretty well, and then they do the same again during Christmas, and they get closer and closer…

I really liked that the other theme of the book, other than their romance, was Becca’s family and not only her need for acceptance from her parents, but also her sister’s wants and needs. I was super happy when the band gets in contact with Becca again, and more than anything I was glad to see that Andy didn’t even question that he would leave his job and chase her – because even though he was with Tara for a year, that thought didn’t even cross his mind.

I really liked the ending, though that part was a bit predictable – what is it with Andrew and the one year mark?! 😛 Now, seriously, it was cute as hell. Becca and Andy are super super cute! Even when they’re being all bad and stuff, they’re so good together!

If you’re looking for a good romance, with a lot of chemistry and some deep issues, and a couple of great characters, give this one a go, it’s totally worth it!

Book Traveling Thursdays: A book I’m thankful for

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Hello, welcome back to another Book Traveling 168709Thursdays, which a weekly meme created by Cátia @The Girl Who Read Too Much and Danielle @Danielle’s Book Blog. The goal is to share the covers of a book related to that week’s theme, which you can see at the Goodreads group, indicating the original cover, the one of your country, your favorite and least favorite.

This week’s theme is “It’s Thanksgiving Time! Choose a book you’re thankful for“. So today I’m going a little out of the box, and with that I mean, I pick Twilight by Stephenie Meyer. Now, hold your horses, ok? I don’t get the sentiment of shame and disdain that this book arouses. I’m extremely thankful for Twilight and let me tell you why: I was always a sporadic reader, in my late teens and early 20’s I read adult books, but I was never IN LOVE with reading. Until one day, when I had returned from my first stay in Barcelona, and my sister, mom and grandmother made me watch a vampire movie! I was hooked! I borrowed Twilight from my grandma, then I had to go out the next day and buy New Moon, and so on and so on. And then I went on Amazon and bought the set-box in english, and then I proceeded to read (for the first time) the 4 books in english. A month later I was buying my 7 Harry Potter books, and since then I haven’t stopped reading.

So, thank you Twilight, for making YA books explode, and for revealing to me the joy of reading, of staying until 4 a.m. reading because I just couldn’t put a book down… that’s what Twilight did for me.


Original COver:

I think that this is one of the most recognizable covers ever, right? I like this one 😉 !

COVER FROM MY COUNTRY (PORTUGAL) & COVER FROM THE COUNTRY I LIVE IN (SPAIN):

                   

Well, this book exists in every language! Here you have the Portuguese edition, the Spanish movie tie-in edition and the catalan edition. I’m not a fan of this movie tie-in, they look so weird on this picture.

Favorite COVER(s):

                                                 

I really like this two covers, the original one, and the white edition that came out in 2010. So pretty.

LEAST FAVORITE COVER(s):

   

Now onto some bad covers… First of is the UK first edition, and OMFG, what is going on there? It’s so ugly! Then it’s the Czech, which isn’t all that bad, but it’s really weird. Of course that the Russian cover HAD to me here, right? And last, but not least, it’s the Thai edition, which could have been a pretty cover, but it’s not…

Honorable Mention:

I’m not sure if this Indonesian edition had a bad or good cover. Well, it’s good because it’s kind of pretty, but on the other hand, it has absolutely nothing to do with the plot or story, and Bella isn’t even blonde!

The Be Thankful Challenge

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It’s Thanksgiving time!!! – It’s today, right?! Because it doesn’t exist in Portugal or Spain (we do have Black Friday though)! Kat @Life and Other Disasters and Cátia @The Girl Who Read Too Much nominated me for this cool challenge: Be Thankful Challenge. So that you both know, I’m extremely thankful for both of you, here on wordpress, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, etc 😉

The Rules:

  • Share this image in your blog post.
  • Write about 5 people in your life you are thankful for.
  • Write about 5 things in 2015 that you are thankful for.
  • Spread the love and challenge 5 other blogs to take part.

5 People I’m Thankful For:

  • My dad: maybe I’ve never said it here, I’m not sure, but my “official residence” is with my dad and I talk to him every single day! He’s always there for me – even if he sometimes doesn’t quite know how to do that.

  • My mom: obviously! She’s my mom! Sometimes she gets under my nerves, but I love her (you know that, right mom?) – she’s also the only one in my family who reads my blog.

  • My nieces and nephew: I sometimes live for the 3 little devils in the family. They make me laugh and I’m so thankful to be their aunt.
  • My best-friend: We don’t always see eye-to-eye, but she’s family to me.

  • You all: The blogging community is a huge support to me, and I’m so thankful for all of you. Most days I talk more to some of you than to most people around my workplace 😉 .

5 Things I’m Thankful For:

  • My books: Honestly, what would I do without my books???

  • Internet: How would I function in a world without internet?
  • Traveling: I sometimes think I could totally live catching planes every other week. I love it.

  • Matcha green tea: How did I live 31 years without this in my life? It’s so good! I already located a few stores here in Barcelona that sell it 😀 .

  • My crappy smart-phone: poor thing it’s almost dying on my from lack of space, but it keeps soldiering on. It gets me all my updates daily, and it helped me keep in touch with everything on my blog while I was away.

5 Blogs I tag:

Captain America: Civil War trailer and posters

What better way to wake up when you’re sick and have a tweet with the new Captain America trailer?! (Thank you Kat!!!)

This trailer hurts me, it’s seriously hard to watch my two favorite babies fighting against each other. And I like to see Bucky all good and all, but seeing Cap against Tony is way too hard! And when Cap says “but he’s my friend.” and then “so was I”, I swear, I’m so sad I want to cry! Check out the trailer below:

Grounded By You (Ivy Sinclair)

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Lights, camera, and passions flare when a small town boy becomes Hollywood’s newest heartthrob. But as the lines between reality and fiction blur, can he still find a way to capture the heart of the girl who got away?

Carter Samuel Groveson.

His name is on the lips of every woman in the country. An actor plucked from obscurity to star in the most anticipated movie of the century, everyone wants a piece of him.
Except her.

Millie St. John isn’t ready to settle down. Not for her family and definitely not for a man. A year ago, Millie ran as far and fast away from Sam as she could because she didn’t want to risk ruining their friendship. 

Now he has reappeared in her life to rekindle that friendship as a way to keep him tethered to reality, and she’s unable to say no. But forces are gathering to catapult Sam’s star to success, and there’s no room left in that plan for Millie.

In this high stakes game of second chance romance, everyone is watching.  

This is a full-length, standalone new adult contemporary romance novel intended for readers 18+.  

The Willoughby Inn Love Story Collection:
Where My Heart Breaks
Grounded By You


As you probably guessed by my rating of this book, it won’t make my favorites list, not by a long shot. Where to even start?! I guess by the positives, right?

I will try to keep this SPOILER free, although there are a couple of points of the plot that I’ll mention because I really need to, ok?

I liked the writing, it flows easily and fast, and it also conveys perfectly well the emotions, sceneries, situations, etc. Unfortunately, these are the things I had a huge problem with.

Let me tell you a bit about the main characters, ok? So, first of all we have Millie, typical high-society girl, with parents that controlled her whole life to the second, and that now, at the age of 23, she decides that she wants to follow her (very recent) dream of being an artist. The problem with Millie, well, one of them at least, is that she’s super super weak. This is a girl who’s afraid of commitment like no other, and that at the first sign of something not going her way, she takes 100 steps back – she does this with Sam (more than once) and she does it with her “dream”, and this really bothered me. Not because she chose safety, but by the way it happened.

Then we have Sam, who by all accounts is a really great guy, until he decided to put his career in front of his integrity and then I wanted to smash his head against the wall. *I’m sorry, I swear I’m not a violent person*

Ok, let’s play a game, yes? Think of all the clichés that can play out involving a Hollywood star and a “normal” girl. Got it?! Yeah, it’s probably in this novel. I swear I was rolling my eyes for most of the time from a certain point on…

Ok, I’ll drop SPOILERS now, if you don’t want to know, don’t look!

  • I’m not doubting that Hollywood involves a lot of politics, and that new stars find themselves under an immense pressure, ok? But Sam agreeing to break up with Millie and not tell her everything, and then the way he did it was horrible. The things she then decided to say to him, even worst.

  • Right after their breakup, Millie gives up on her art. Yes, her “dream”, a thing that she had decided for almost a year before Sam came into her life again. She just GIVES UP!!!! – I told you she’s weak, right?

  • By the way, before the breakup, they “decide” (not actually thinking much) to have sex during her parent’s party, and they do it without a condom. When that happened I was like “OMFG, she’s gonna get pregnant *eye roll*“. Do you want to guess what happens next?! Yep, she gets pregnant!!!!

  • Sam, being the confused little boy that apparently he is, actually thinks that he’s catching feelings for his co-star, so when he decides that they need to practice the kiss for the movie, he decides that said practice should be done in public… *facepalm*

  • Then, obviously, she decides not to tell him about the baby. First because she’s mad. Then he says he loves her, she goes to his hotel, they spend the night together and she leaves him, again, and still she doesn’t tell him that she’s pregnant, because it’s not “the right moment for him”. WTF????!!! Oh, by the way, by then she had decided to keep it.

  • Sam obviously runs after Millie to NYC, and as soon as he gets there, she decides it’s finally time to tell him… really? The guy is super happy, obviously, he has loved her for more than a year, and he always wanted a family and so on. Then within a day they manage to turn the publicity in their favor, even though the press believed him to be in a relationship with his co-star. And then they are in full-on family style.

  • It really bothered me that the only reason that their relationship comes out is because there’s a baby involved. That’s the only reason the baby happens, I tell you. It’s sad and frustrating. The relationship on itself should be more than enough.

  • Also, it irked me to no end that these two people who had been best friends for a whole summer, that were together 24/7, that knew each other so well, doubted each other’s motivations at each step.

  • Last, but not least, their reactions and attitudes seemed more fitting of younger characters. I swear that the angst was at YA level, with something serious lacking in both their personalities.