Let’s Talk About: Sex in Novels

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Hey people! If you’ve been following me for some time now, you probably know that even though I’ve been blogging for almost 3 years (yeah! I know!), I’ve never actually done a bookish discussion post. What?! How is that possible?! Oh well… a lot of you guys do them, and you have brilliant ideas every week, and most of the times I end up agreeing with one view or the other, sometimes I even comment, but I never really felt the need to write a post about any of those subjects. That was true until this past friday…

Josie @Josie’s Book Corner wrote a post entitled Sex in Novels…| Thursday Ramblings, as you probably know because you’re all following her, right? – If you aren’t, you might want to start NOW! – I’m rambling here, moving on…

So, Josie wrote this post, and just to shed some light on this, I usually agree with Josie on almost everything. She gives me the best book recommendations and her discussion posts are always on point, but as I saw the subject, I knew that this would not be a theme we would agree on. Have you read her post? Well, Josie defends her opinion on why she doesn’t think that sex should be featured in books, and as I couldn’t disagree more, I decided to write this post to expose my own opinion on this subject.

I should disclose that my opinion is obviously influenced by my very adult age – I’m 31!!! – and the fact that I was raised in a very liberal environment with 3 older siblings. I probably should also mention that I’m agnostic (just because)…

I’ll be using quotes from Josie’s post within the discussion – all quotes are from her.


whysexmatters

As you might have figured it out by now, I’m in favor of sex in novels, and yes, I’m being general here. It’s obvious I don’t think it should feature in children’s books, because – DUH!!!, but in any other type of book, yep, I’m all for it.

Now, hold your horses people! Let me get into it, ok?

We have enough of this in our erotica novels, and even more all over the internet. Why should we start sexualising the pages of our novels? 

Sex is a natural part of life, and it’s a good part of life! The distinction between what is erotica and not, shouldn’t be on the basis it it features sex or not, it should be in terms of description and explicitly. Should ALL books that feature sex be explicit?! Heck no! But that doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t include sex if the story calls for it.

We have enough media promoting sex to young people (…) think that including sex in Young Adult novels, is just sending reassurance to young people that it’s normal for them to have sex, being 16, 17, or maybe even younger. This is not something we want to promote.

It’s true that we live in a hypersexualized society, unfortunately yes, it’s very true, but eliminating sexual content from novels doesn’t mean that this trend will disappear. Books should reflect the life and problems that people face everyday, not what society SHOULD be like. I respect everyone’s beliefs, but sex is a BIG part of teens and young adults lives, people are having sex, it’s natural, sex is a normal part of everyday life, it’s no different from any other event in one’s life (except that it’s probably way better).

What I’m saying is: sex shouldn’t be a big deal! Is it an important thing? YES! Should it have limits and be respectful? Obvious! Should you do it only if you’re ready? ABSOLUTELY! But its importance depends on the people involved. Some people will think it’s this huge Earth-Shattering HUGE decision kind of thing, while for most of us Sex is just Sex! (Am I being too cold here?)

Traditionally, sex is a personal experience between two people, coming together in love.

The idea that the sexual act is synonymous of love actually irks me a bit (sorry!). To make it clear, I’m not crazy about the whole “one-night stand” thing, but LOVE is something that comes with time, while lust, attraction and sexual desire are much more immediate. It’s a bit naive of us to think that the two go hand-in-hand for most people, because they don’t, and that’s OK! However, a sexual relationship can be a stepping stone for deeper feelings, and sometimes it happens the other way around 😉 .


nabooks

If you’ve seen my blog for the past couple of months you know this already, but here it goes: I LOVE NEW ADULT BOOKS! And yes, I like that they include sex, and I even like that they include EXPLICIT sex (cofcof, I live vicariously through my books… whatcha gonna do?!).

Out of all the life experiences that we could be exploring with the New Adult genre, from university, to mid-life crises, and so much more, we are focusing on sex? 

It’s true that some New Adult books focus too much on the romance and sex, and forget to actually have a plot, but that’s not true for all those books. And in some cases the sex part of the relationship is important for the development of the relationship as well as the characters. Sex is a big part of most of new adults’ lives,  whether they’re in a relationship or just doing the casual thing, so it’s natural that that reality is mirrored in New Adults’ books.

I finished a NA book just a couple of days ago – best NA book I’ve ever read, by the way – where the MC’s relationship with sex was of vital importance to the plot and the story. The book dealt with how to live and have a normal sexual relationship when you were a victim of sexual abuse, and even how to actually acknowledge that you were a victim. It’s an important message and a book that I highly recommend, and it touches on the fact that your body might react to something in a different way that your mind does, and that doesn’t mean you gave consent (my review will be up in a couple of days).

Especially to the readers who are emerging out of YA novels and into NA, we are romanticising the idea of being an adult, giving the impression that when you step into the wider world, your experiences with men/women is going to be all about sexy times and this is just as bad as the portrayal of some romances in YA, in my personal opinion.

This is true, not everyone stepping into adult life will find a partner that easily, but for those who do, even the most imperfect relationship, will most likely involve (some kind of) sex. New Adults who chose to remain celibate (for whatever reason) are a minority, so an adult relationship will most likely involve some steamy, sexy times, as well as everything else. If you chose to read a New Adult ROMANCE, it’s pretty clear that it will include sex – because it usually does in real life. The thing that in most cases doesn’t happen is that you’ll find that perfect someone that easily, but hey, it’s a ROMANCE! Sexual chemistry is important in a relationship!

Could most NA books have better plot? YES!!! Do they all need to describe the sex scenes so explicitly? Hmmm, probably not, but if it’s well written, it’s really nice to read… But it’s unrealistic to have an adult relationship portrayed that doesn’t include sex.


yabooks

About YA… this is another can of worms… Should sex be present in YA books?! I’ll say YES as well, and I’ll explain my opinion.

Sex should be present whenever the plot calls for it. If we’re talking about a romance of any sort within the YA universe, then it’s only natural, that at some point, the main couple engages in sexual activity. BUT, contrary to NA novels, I believe that the act should be implied and not described.

YA BOOKS DON’T HAVE TO INCLUDE SEX WHEN IT IS NOT PERTINENT, OBVIOUSLY!!!

An example of a YA book that does explicit sex right, in my opinion, is Ignite Me by Tahereh Mafi – you have absolutely NO DOUBT about what’s going on, but the only thing described are Juliette’s feelings 😉 – by the way, LUCKY GIRL!!! Another example of pertinent sex in YA is in Crown of Midnight by Sarah J. Maas, where everything is implied – non explicitly – and it makes a lot of sense in terms of the progression of the story and the romance.

Mental health, growing up, self discovery, and much more. Of course, I suppose you can argue that sex is a part of self-discovery and growing up but I don’t think so, and I really don’t want to promote sex among a teenage audience.

I have to disagree with Josie here, because SEX is most definitely a part of self-discovery and growing up. The teenage years is when your sexual identity is defined, when you start to feel urges and changes to your body. Acknowledging that is important, because sexual maturation is a normal part of growing up. Also, a lot of teenagers have problems and insecurities regarding sex, body confidence or sexual orientation and identity, if we want books to be diverse, they should include all these problems, in all the shapes, forms and acts that they come in.

For instance, Love in the Time of Global Warming by Francesca Lia Block, might have a lot of problems, but it deals with the main character sexuality and how her intimate relationship with her transgender boyfriend might work. These are important subjects and they should be talked about.


inconclusion

I’m in favor of sexual content in novels because I think that sex is a natural and normal part of life. I was never shy to discuss it, and it never bothered me to share or talk about the subject, so I have no problem reading about it, and I enjoy it. I realize that my level of comfort with it had something to do with my age and my upbringing, and I understand that not everyone will feel so open and relaxed about this topic.

Having a sexual content within a book doesn’t immediately means that you’re reading “porn” – though let me tell you that some books are highly superior to some of the stuff flying around. Most of the times, sex is dealt with taste, whether it is explicit or not.

“But YA is aimed for kids! The books shouldn’t even touch the subject!!!”

Let me ask you, in which century are you living? Because kids nowadays have a clear understanding on how things work. Given that, I think it’s only beneficial if they read about it in safe books, that show that it should be done with respect and feelings. That protection is important. That it’s ok not to be sure. It’s ok not to do it. And it’s ok to do it. NOBODY SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF SEX! When you start taking the topic off the table of discussions, out of books and schools, and general media, that’s when you’ll lack information and the worst will happen.

It’s always safer to talk openly about these subjects, than to confine them to being unbreachable topics. Talking about these stuff leads to understanding and confidence. Reading about them makes you feel understood and less alone.

Sex is natural. Sex is good. (I hope no one here is still under the impression that babies come from… whatever they say they come from in your country.)

So… almost 2000 words later, I think I’m done! I hope I didn’t step on anyone’s toes here 😛 . So, what do you think about this subject?

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85 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About: Sex in Novels

  1. Nicolette Elzie says:

    Bravo! Well done post, an immaculate argument that I couldn’t agree with more and won’t even bother boring you by basically reiterating all of your points. Everything here is just perfection. *bows down*

      • Nicolette Elzie says:

        Yes! Totally! ^.^ Tbh, I guess I felt a little shocked that people would feel offended at the idea of sex in novels. But when I thought about it again and remembered that we do all come from different backgrounds and if sex is taboo in a household, then it makes sense that sometimes an unhealthy mentality about sex can be developed, which is why talking about it and every facet of it (the uncertainty etc) is important.

        I grew up sort of being deathly terrified of one day being sexually assaulted, like it was something my mother was always sure to warn be about and make sure I was super conscious of whenever I left the house (in terms of having situational awareness). It was a good and a bad thing, to be fair. However, if it weren’t for Tamora Pierce and the way she handled sex in her books, I probably would have thought all sex was scary.

        So, yes, I absolutely agree with you. I would think a lot of people do, but I guess I’m wrong. *shrugs*

  2. thebibliotheque says:

    *Stands up clapping* YES! I complete and absolutely agree with you, Cristina.

    You explain perfectly why is okay for sex to be “present” in books, stories, novels… and after all, is it not the most natural thing? Why not explore it through literature? What’s not okay is to ignore it and pretend sex and love don’t hold hands most of the time, if not always.

    And regarding sex in YA, you are spot on as well. I agree it’s okay but I also think it’s important the way sex is portrayed. As you say, being realistic, it’s not like teenagers are alienated from it anyway… 21st century.

    Bravo!

  3. Jordan Bates says:

    I love you. I love this. I love everything about this that is happening right now. Like all the feels for sex. All the words that spewed from you is everything I have ever tried to tell someone when they give me a bad look for reading a book with sex in it! Don’t worry though, I live vicariously through my NA books too ;]

  4. Lydia Tewkesbury says:

    This is such a great post. I completely agree. My only issue with sex in YA is that birth control doesn’t come up often enough. I know it’s super un-romantic, but so often I’m reading and I’m like Guys! Condoms! Why aren’t you using one?! Whenever authors mention using protection, I like them that much more.

  5. Keira says:

    I agree with you on a lot of these points. I am going to be writing my own post on this topic soon, which will hopefully give a different perspective, as I am 13 and therefore in lower half of the age group YA is aimed at!

  6. impossiblegirl123 says:

    You did so well on this post!!! You already know that I agree with you and I think you articulated it very well. I especially think that it was a good way to separate NA and YA and to call for the differences in which the sex parts should be written in those books.
    However, I do agree with a previous comment I read here, it wouldn’t hurt for YA books to talk about birth control/protection a little more (it’s not been present at all in most books).
    I haven’t written a discussion post either, but yours made me want to write one too. I just don’t know about what topic …

  7. BookWorm2117 says:

    Great counter argument to Josie.. I honestly have to agree with the differences between NA and YA.. I’m 16 years old and well I’ve read some YA book such as COM and as you said its rather implied than actually explicity written..

    I’ve recently just finished reading A Court Of Thorns and Roses By Sarah J Maas and well after reading TOG series this book was actually more explicit when I got to the sex scences.. But they were not like Fifty Shades Of Grey explicit (I haven’t read Fifty Shades Of Grey don’t worry) But I really enjoyed ACOTAR and I didn’t even cringe when I read those certain parts of the book and I found it entertaining to see the reactions of the characters after and how there behaviour has changed.. ACOTAR is a bridge between YA and NA right? But I wonder what age range would you say people should start reading NA books? I’d love hear what you thing the age range should be..

    Overall great post!

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      ACOTAR is NA I think, at least that’s how it was classified when I read it. ACOTAR is way more explicit, and the ages of the characters are higher as well – but I do think that Throne of Glass isn’t exactly YA at the moment.
      I think pinpointing ages is tough. I say that if you are ok with language and sexual content, there’s nothing that a NA book can do that will make you uncomfortable. But you can be 25, and if you’re not ok with those things, you’ll never be into NA. NA tends to be MUCH MORE EXPLICIT, and way more than ACOTAR, so it’s really up to each reader to see what they feel comfortable reading.

      • BookWorm2117 says:

        Thank You for replying so fast! Again I agree.. It’s all about making sure that us bookworms are comfortable with what we are reading and so we aren’t cringing at every moment sex comes up in the book! Maas has already even said in many of her interviews that A Court Of Mist And Fury is much more steamier that ACOTAR..!

  8. calliopethebookgoddess says:

    This was pefect, yes yes and yes! I love how some ya books have sex, but it’s not explicit so younger teens could read it, and maybe not quite get it, but other people could understand and love it. And the examples you brought up were perfect! Ignite me is so steamy but it’s not the core focus of the book and the plot

  9. thedaydreamingbookworm says:

    You totally killed it with this post! I love it :D! Sex is important in novels. We may not all agree or feel comfortable about the topic of sex, but it is still relatable and we shouldn’t be ashamed to discuss this topic in books.

  10. theorangutanlibrarian says:

    Couldn’t agree more!! I’m totally for sex in books. Bit off topic, but the only reasons I would disapprove of a sex scene in a book is a) if it’s badly written and cringy and b) if it’s jarring, out of place and is just thrown in for sensationalism

  11. AfricanDuchess says:

    *Warning this is different. I apologize in advance if I offend someone with this comment. 🙂

    Wow, after so many ‘I agree’, here I come with an (almost) counterargument. I agree with the quotes from Josie’s blog and I totally see your point, because this is the 21st Century. Sex happens. It means something for other people and to others it’s a physiological need like water and food, whether you’re a theist, an atheist or agnostic. I won’t lie, my (almost) counterargument will be based on my lifestyle. I’m Christian and a big believer of sex before marriage. I read a ton of NA meaning I’m exposed to sex, though right now, I’m cutting back because I have a few problems. (I digress).

    What I’m saying is not no sex in novels. Because like you said it happens. Like Josie, I have a problem with sex in YA, especially if it’s not warranted. Yes, +/-16 years is the age teens feel the urges to explore their sexuality. But in my opinion, I feel like it’s encouraging young people to have sex just because. My problem with sex at a young age is you become one with another and that has major effects on you. Especially as young person. It speeds up the process of growing from a girl to a woman. I mean, let’s go back in history, yes people got engaged at sixteen but there never had sex at that age. The process of a penis penetrating a vagina is big because you sharing the most sacred part of you with another person. And I’m saying it’s sacred because I’m a Christian, I’m saying it’s sacred because it’s not out in the open like a mouth, where you can easily steal a kiss. It’s down south. So basically, sex in YA is saying it’s okay for teens to grow faster than they should.
    I’ve read The DUFF and sex played an amazing role in it. Which raised two points, teens are using sex as an escape from whatever problems they have and because of the bond (becoming one with another, even a few minutes) teens mistake sex with love. You’d be surprised by how many teens are a victim of that. The latter point is what I’ve realized from reading other YA and NA books.

    The other issue is that males see sex when they see an attractive female. Especially when bodily changes take place. Females see something else. As a woman, when you see a guy, your first thought isn’t I want do him now. Especially as sixteen year old. You see your prince charming that’s going to bring glass heels to see if they fit. You see a frog (toad) and a beast that’s going to transform into a handsome prince. You believe in love even if you don’t know what that kind of love is. The fact that these two points are not discussed, means it’s not understood.

    Sex in NA. That shizz is real. My problem with sex in NA is the sex is just too much. To the point where I worry that I’m actually reading erotica. And yes, lust is real. But I think the way NA applies sex in some of it’s books should be revised. First of all, it says (according to some books I’ve read), if a guy you’re attracted to doesn’t want to jump your bones and have f*ck your brains out you’re the most unattractive person. Second, the way guys behave when they think with their south head is so uncalled for. Dirty talking you before he knows your last name? Really? Lastly, the way sex is posed in most books says if a woman says no to sex or has boundaries she’s a prude or that there’s something really wrong with her. Additionally, this irks me to a million, that you have the one when he hits the g spot in a particular way or when his length is just right for your hole. What the frappe?
    I don’t want to finish my book and remember his length or her wetness. I want to remember to his alphaness in his character strength, not sexually skills, and her bravery and heroic character in how she carried herself and her worth, not in how she rode him.

    I guess my (almost) counterargument simply says, majority of the books don’t use sex to say ‘it happens’ but rather they say ‘if you ain’t doing it, you ain’t living’.

    Happy December 1st! It’s December where I am.

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      OMG, that’s a huge reply!!! 😉 Thank you for commenting!!!

      Now, you make some great points. I have been lucky enough that I haven’t read any YA that I think used sex badly. True that I haven’t read that many contemporaries, but those I read that had sex in them, it was done and handled well. I honestly don’t think that the fact that sex exists within books encourages teens to have sex, but that’s my opinion based on my personal experiences. I don’t think it says that it’s ok to have sex “whatever”, I think some books say “it’s ok to be ready and to not have regrets”, and that’s a good message too, because if you’re sure and you want something, why not do it? (if done responsibly, of course)

      ” As a woman, when you see a guy, your first thought isn’t I want do him now. ” – now, here I disagree. I think it’s a huge mistake and a myth to think that men and women’s brain function inherently differently. The thing about men always thinking about sex and women don’t is bullsh*t! I say this because I am a woman, I never once questioned my sexuality or gender identity, I’m smart, have an higher education, and yet I think more about sex that most of my male friends. I look at a gorgeous guy and I don’t see a prince charming, I see a guy I want to take to my bed. (*ups… sorry*)

      It’s true that relationships are not always portrayed at their best, but that’s a problem with the author and the story, and not with the book genre or the fact that there is sex present at the book.

      You have a point in NA romance, and again, it has a lot more to do with how the book is written, because I’ve read some amazingly explicit books, that mention a lot of details, but what I took from the book was the character’s connection and feelings (and not how good the sex was).

      Welcome to DECEMBER!!! 😀

  12. Sara @ freadomlibrary says:

    You said absolutely everything I wanted to say in a comment on that post but then decided not to because it would be too long haha. I agree with you one hundred percent. Sex is a natural part of life and growing up and learning about who you are and it’s important to portray realistic situations of sex in books than have no representation at all and have most teens and young adults confused but doing it anyway. Sex wasn’t a big topic in my house but I felt personably responsible for my own knowledge and I took the time to research and most importantly read on the subject so I would be informed. The first book I read that had sex in it was Forever… by Judy Blume when I was in 7th grade and while looking back it was a bit explicit for me at the time, it was the first stepping stone in my life to discover my own sexuality and I even had it on my top 5 Wednesday post for books I’m thankful for. I really appreciate you throwing your two cents into the discussion because it’s so important to share all sides. Fabulous post!

  13. Josephine says:

    I love your response to my post ! Absolutely love it despite the fact that we vastly disagree with each other. You obviously know how I feel about your opinion so there’s no need to me to reiterate it.
    But I suppose something I didn’t indicate very clearly was the fact that I wouldn’t want to completely exclude the inclusion of sex in novels but I agree that in certain cases it should be more glossed over and implied rather than descriptive and explicit. I just feel that most inclusions of sex in the stories I’ve read are unnecessary! But I do understand it’s an incredibly crucial part of life. Also I think because I’m a Christian, and personally I strongly don’t like how sex is portrayed in other forms of media also.
    Great discussion and response Cristina, it was fantastic ! 😊

  14. Liam's Library says:

    Cristina, just yes! I agree with everything here. As a lover of NA myself I can totally understand how people can think that it’s all just sex but when I looked deeper I found some of my favourite reads.
    I’m totally with you in saying that when a book calls for sex, it should happen just like other normal human activities happen. There shouldn’t be any shame or taboo involved when bringing up sex in books.
    I was going to comment on Josie’s original post but I think you’ve summed up all I wanted to say. I’m so happy this community can discuss these things respectfully.
    Well done on a fabulous post!

  15. cw @ readthinkponder says:

    I love this post Cristina! I read everything word-for-word and enjoyed reading it immensely.
    Despite my thoughts on sex (as articulated in my reply to Josie’s post), I agree with your points. Sex IS a natural part of life and no one should be ashamed of sex!

    But, as someone else in the comments said, I think it does depend on how ‘natural’ is understood in their culture/upbringing/religion/personal choice. For me, to each their own! If people want to have sex after marriage, want to have no sex partners, want to have many, that’s all good by me. I think what’s most important is that people practice safe sex and take steps to look after their sexual, mental and physical health.

    I do want to say one thing though – somewhere in the post you said that love and sex do not necessarily have to go hand in hand. For me (and I understand that others will be very different to me), that is most certainly the case because of my demisexuality. I cannot imagine myself having sex with someone that I don’t love/have a deep emotional bond with, so for me, it is literally hand-in-hand. So on that point, lust and attraction are not immediate; they are absolutely two things that comes after. BUT, I do acknowledge that I am a very rare case. ;P

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      Hey 😀 Thank you so much for commenting!!! I agree that the views on sex will depend largely on personal experiences, but that doesn’t mean that books should not include it. It’s your choice as a reader to go into those books or not :). Safe sex and health of all kinds should definitely be a priority!
      I do understand that for you sex and love go hand in hand 😀 and I honestly think that that is great, that you NEED to have an emotional bond with your partner, but that’s not true for a lot of people. I’m not into casual flings, but I had them, and would have them if the opportunity arises. For me a physical bond can come before the emotional one, and even helps me with that. We are all different 😀

      • cw @ readthinkponder says:

        Of course! I don’t think sex should be excluded in novels and did agree in the instance where you said that sex is a natural part of life and therefore should be included in books. I also agree that in YA, where the audience is very broad, should more often be implied rather than explicitly described.

        Thank you for understanding. And yes, I know that it isn’t the case for a lot of people – everyone’s sex lives and choices are different and I respect them all (so long as they are consensual). I thought to share my experience to offer my own perspective and how that wouldn’t apply to me. In no way do I think my personal experience/sexuality should shape another person’s choices and experiences. 🙂

  16. ManOfYesterday says:

    Great post, and some really interesting follow-up comments! I thought I’d throw my two cents in because I write erotica for a living so my whole livelihood is based around having sex in books :p.

    I think the main problem is when the sex comes across as gratuitous or just forced into the story. I’ve written about 500 erotic stories over the past couple of years and I always try to make sure that the sex has a meaning to the characters, and that as a reader you actually care about what the characters are feeling and thinking and what the act of sex means to them.

    Another problem that comes with sex in books is that, quite frankly, some authors just can’t write sex scenes well. And that’s fine, it’s not something everyone can do and it’s a skill like anything else, the same way that some people can’t write fight scenes well etc, and a badly-written sex scene can take me completely out of the story, even if the rest of the story is well-written.

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      Oh, I agree wholeheartedly on both accounts! I don’t like when sex comes across as gratuitous either, but I do enjoy it immensely if it makes sense in the story and is important to the storyline.
      and yes, for me the biggest problem is if the sex scenes are badly written =/

      Thank you so much for commenting 😀

  17. Summer @ Xingsings says:

    This is such wonderful post, Cristina!

    I so agree with you and your stance on this topic. Sex in books is a good thing depending on what audience it’s for. Like you said, sexual content is totally okay for NA and adults, but it’s also beneficial and natural for ya to read about it too-just not in so much detail.

    And the “Sex is natural. Sex is good.” really made me laugh so hard for some reason. 😄

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      hmmm, what was so funny about that sentence?! 😛 I’m so glad you agree with me :D, I understand that a lot of people don’t like to read about it, but that doesn’t mean that the topic shouldn’t be explored 🙂

  18. Katy Goodwin-Bates says:

    I’ve only just stumbled across this whole debate but may I say ‘bravo’ to all of this? I agree with everything you say here. I teach teenagers: they are mature enough to deal with it. Nobody says ‘oh wait, they had sex in All the Bright Places ‘ so I will do that too. Teens are savvy.
    Well done: it took guts to write this post.

    • MyTinyObsessions says:

      THANK YOUUU!!! 😀 I also think that teens are ready to talk and read about these subjects. And if they’re ready to do it, they should be informed about it. And yes, I don’t think books drive teens to have sex…

  19. peculiarb says:

    Up until now I didn’t even know there was a debate around this topic. I mean, I imagined some people might feel like sex shouldn’t be in a book, but most of the YA books I’ve read have been pretty vague with the whole thing, usually just implying it happened before skipping over to later, so I never thought it was an actual problem. I absolutely agree with all your points, and I think there should be more discussions around this. It’s always interesting to compare different views on a particular subject!

  20. Claire Wells says:

    Wow, this is such an amazing post. I agree, I think sex is something that is super important in YA novels. Yeah, the audience isn’t adult but like you said, sex is a part of growing up. I recently did a post about unrealistic relationships in YA, and I think that those YA characters that are clearly soulmates or whatever, well they’re gonna have sex ya know? Like eventually “soulmates” are gonna do more than hug and make out.

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